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Just left at the endo with my 13yr old son and his A1 C went from 6.7 to 9.9. He flat out told the dr. He doesn't want to test or do what he is supposed to cause it's annoying.

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supporting a parent , Hemodialysis @ home since 2008.
Staunton, VA

Living with type 1 diabetes since 2007.
Portage, PA
I was that way to when I got it at 12 and now I'm 26 and I'm learning the hard way now

Halfway, MO
Life is annoying too but we deal with our everyday problems... Everyone has a battle and sadly his is this :( ... I was diagnosed at 25 I know it sucks an is annoying an he just wants to quit but keep encouraging him an as much as it gets on his nerves stay on him to check and eat properly .. He is young an has so much more life to live and enjoy!

Living with type 1 diabetes since 1992.
Milwaukee, WI
You may need to take back some of his care and be responsible for checking his sugars when he is at home, giving him injections or bolusing him with his pump etc. Give him a break for a few weeks from having to do a lot of the thinking about it. He is at an age where there is a lot of peer pressure to be ‘normal’ and ‘like other kids’. I felt the same way he did when I was his age and didn’t do everything I should fir my care during my teen and early 20s years and have paid the price in consequences. Now, I wish my parents would have taken back some of the control and thinking and actions needed. B

Living with type 1 diabetes since 2007.
Portage, PA
After having my daughter that is now a year old I check it and watch what I eat everyday bc of her

I'm a mom supporting a child with type 1 diabetes since 2006.
Waxhaw, NC
I'm not sure how long you have been with T1D, but you and the school will need to step in and help him care for himself.

I'm a mom supporting a child with type 1 diabetes since 2007.
Fort Erie, CAN
My boy is now 14 and he has been a T1D since a baby and at 12 he decided he didn't want to be and so he refuses to take of it. He is on an omnipod and has an amazing support system but he says I am not doing it anymore so we all have to some time I jus let it get me down

I'm a mom supporting a child with type 1 diabetes since 2011. with type 1 diabetes.
Butner, NC
Hope it gets better!!

I'm a mom supporting a child with type 1 diabetes since 2016.I'm a mom supporting a child with type 1 diabetes since 2004.
Unknown Location
Thanks everyone. I am still trying to decide what I want to do. I guess though that I am going to have to just start doing stuff for him for a little while like suggested. He has only need diagnosed for a year.

Living with type 1 diabetes since 2009.
Unknown Location
Look up “nudge” theory ... that may help you find some ways to encourage him & “nudge” him in the right direction w/o “nagging him”... but at his age - he’s just entering those tough “teenage” years, so sometimes you may just have to be the bad guy. & look into “Loop” - a open source hybrid closed loop artificial pancreas system. It’s based on using an iPhone and a small transmitter (called a rileylink) in combination with an insulin pump... maybe you can get him excited about “the technology” .... plus, it will do a lot of the work throughout the day for him. I’ve been using it now for 3 months and it’s made a huge difference in my life! I spend 1/10th the amount of time & energy that i used to - & the best a1c’s Ive ever had.... its really taken a huge part of the mental fatigue out of it. I don’t get burned out like I used to.... & it sounds like he is feeling a bit burned out right now. Just remember that what he’s feeling is totally normal for any t1d, let alone a 13 y.o. — good luck. 🕉📿👍 And I’d let him splurge & have a soda or whatever semi frequently, as long as he properly counts his carbs and preboluses first, it will be okay!! Just remember at that age you can’t aim or expect perfection, pretty good will do. It will get him through the tough years without any long term damage, so when he is older and more mature, he can take the reins confidently. and If you can get him excited about creating his own closed loop, there’s lots of tweaking and customizing he can learn to do and he will learn new/valuable skills( like computer programming, etc...) + I’d let him design his own custom pump case/ pump stickers / etc... anything to make it fun and “his”- the more he likes it or feels like it’s his creation, the harder he will work to take care of it- & hopefully by extension himself. if you can help him reframe his situation in a way where he feels empowered, cool, part of something, rather than alone, tired, & different - that alone would be huge! If he asks why him? Because he’s “strong enough & smart enough to handle it”... your biggest job as a parent will be to constantly teach/show him how to cope & grow from stress & challenges. Suffering is inevitable, how he interprets it & faces it is up to him. it will help him in every part of his life, not just w/ his diabetes. I wish my parents had talked to me more about those things, the truths of life....